石头问：我究竟该找个我爱的人做我的妻子呢？还是该找个爱我的人做我的妻子呢？ 佛笑了笑：这个问题的答案其实就在你自己的心底。 这些年来，能让你爱得死去活来，能让你感觉得到生活充实，能让你挺起胸不断往前走，是你爱的人呢？还是爱你的人呢？ 石头也笑了：可是朋友们都劝我找个爱我的女孩做我的妻子？ 佛说：真要是那样的话，你的一生就将从此注定碌碌无为！你是习惯在追逐爱情的过程中不断去完善自己的。你不再去追逐一个自己爱的人，你自我完善的脚步也就停滞下来了。 石头抢过了佛的话：那我要是追到了我爱的人呢？会不会就…… 佛说：因为她是你最爱的人，让她活得幸福和快乐被你视作是一生中最大的幸福，所以，你还会为了她生活得更加幸福和快乐而不断努力。幸福和快乐是没有极限，所以你的努力也将没有极限，绝不会停止。 石头说：那我活的岂不是很辛苦？ 佛说：这么多年了，你觉得自己辛苦吗？ 石头摇了摇头，又笑了。 石头问：既然这样，那么是不是要善待一下爱我的人呢？ 佛摇了摇头，说：你需要你爱的人善待你吗？ 石头苦笑了一下：我想我不需要。 佛说：说说你的原因。 石头说：我对爱情的要求较为苛刻，那就是我不需要这里面夹杂着同情夹杂着怜悯，我要求她是发自内心的爱我的，同情怜悯宽容和忍让虽然也是一种爱，尽管也会给人带来某种意义上的幸福，但它却是我深恶痛绝，如果她对我的爱夹杂着这些，那么我宁愿她不要理睬我，又或者直接拒绝我的爱意，在我还来得及退出来的时候，因为感情是只能越陷越深的，绝望远比希望来的实在一些，因为绝望的痛是一刹那的，而希望的痛则是无限期的。 佛笑了：很好，你已经说出了答案！ 石头问：为什么我以前爱着一个女孩时，她在我眼中是最美丽的？而现在我爱着一个女孩，我却常常会发现长得比她漂亮的女孩呢？ 佛问：你敢肯定你是真的那么爱她，在这世界上你是爱她最深的人吗？ 石头毫不犹豫地说：那当然！ 佛说：恭喜。你对她的爱是成熟、理智、真诚而深切的。 石头有些惊讶：哦？ 佛又继续说：她不是这世间最美的，甚至在你那么爱她的时候，你都清楚地知道这个事实。但你还是那么地爱着她，因为你爱的不只是她的青春靓丽，要知道韶华易逝，红颜易老，但你对她的爱恋已经超越了这些表面的东西，也就超越了岁月。你爱的是她整个的人，主要是她的独一无二的内心。 石头忍不住说：是的，我的确很爱她的清纯善良，疼惜她的孩子气。 佛笑了笑：时间的任何考验对你的爱恋来说算不得什么。 石头问：为什么后来在一起的时候，两个人反倒没有了以前的那些激情，更多的是一种相互依赖？ 佛说：那是因为你的心里已经潜移默化中将爱情转变为了亲情… 石头摸了摸脑袋：亲情？ 佛继续说：当爱情到了一定的程度的时候，是会在不知不觉中转变为亲情的，你会逐渐将她看作你生命中的一部分，这样你就会多了一些宽容和谅解，也只有亲情才是你从诞生伊始上天就安排好的，也是你别无选择的，所以你后来做的，只能是去适应你的亲情，无论你出生多么高贵，你都要不讲任何条件的接受他们，并且对他们负责对他们好。 石头想了想，点头说道：亲情的确是这样的。 佛笑了笑：爱是因为相互欣赏而开始的，因为心动而相恋，因为互相离不开而结婚，但更重要的一点是需要宽容、谅解、习惯和适应才会携手一生的。 石头沉默了：原来爱情也是一种宿命。 石头问：在这样的一个时代，这样的一个社会里，像我这样的一个人这样辛苦地去爱一个人。是否值得呢？ 佛说：你自己认为呢？ 石头想了想，无言以对。 佛也沉默了一阵，终于他又开了口：路既然是自己选择的，就不能怨天尤人，你只能无怨无悔。 石头长吁了一口气，石头知道他懂了，他用坚定的目光看了佛一眼，没有再说话 佛笑了笑：爱是因为相互欣赏而开始的，因为心动而相恋，因为互相离不开而结婚，但更重要的一点是需要宽容、谅解、习惯和适应才会携手一生的。

桌两边，坐了男人和女人。 　　“我喜欢你。”女人一边摆弄着手里的酒杯，一边淡淡的说着。 　　“我有老婆。”男人摸着自己的手上的戒指。 　　“我不在乎，我只想知道，你的感觉。你，喜欢我嘛？” 　　意料中的答案。男人抬起头，打量着对面的女人。 　　23岁，年轻，有朝气，相当不错的年纪。 　　白皙的皮肤，充满活力的身体，一双明亮的，会说话的眼睛。 　　真是不错的女人啊，可惜。 　　“如果你也喜欢我，我不介意作你的情人。”女人终于等不下去，追加了一句。 　　“我爱我妻子。”?男人坚定的回答。 　　“你爱她？爱她什么？现在的她，应该已经年老色衰，见不得人了吧。 　　否则，公司的晚宴，怎么从来不见你带她来……” 　　女人还想继续，可接触到男人冷冷的目光后，打消了念头。 　　静…… 　　“你喜欢我什么？”男人开口了。 　　“成熟，稳重，动作举止很有男人味，懂得关心人，很多很多。反正，和我之前见过的人不同。你很特别。” 　　“你知道三年前的我，什么样子？”男人点了颗烟。 　　“不知道。我不在乎，即使你坐过牢。” 　　“三年前，我就是你现在眼里的那些普通男人。”男人没理会女人，继续说。 　　“普通大学毕业，工作不顺心，整天喝酒，发脾气。对女孩子爱理不理，***来发泄自己的欲求不满。还因为去夜总会找小姐，被警察抓过。” 　　“那怎么？”女人有了兴趣，想知道是什么，让男人转变的。“因为她？” 　　“嗯。” 　　“她那个人，好像总能很容易就能看到事情的内在。教我很多东西，让我别太计较得失；别太在乎眼前的事；让我尽量待人和善。那时的我在她面前，就像少不更事的孩子。也许那感觉，就和现在你对我的感觉差不多。那时真的很奇怪，倔脾气的我，只是听她的话。按照她说的，接受现实，知道自己没用，就努力工作。那年年底，工作希晕⒂辛似鹕颐墙峄榱恕！? 　　男人弹了弹烟灰，继续说着。 　　“那时，真是苦日子。两个人，一张床，家里的家具，也少的可怜。知道吗？结婚一年，我才给她买了第一颗钻戒，存了大半年的钱呢。当然，是背着她存的。若她知道了，是肯定不让的。” 　　“那阵子，烟酒弄得身体不好。大冬天的，她每天晚上睡前还要给我熬汤喝。那味道，也只有她做得出。” 　　男人沉醉于那回忆里，忘记了时间，只是不停的讲述着往事。 　　而女人，也丝毫没有打扰的意思，就静静地听着。 　　等男人注意到时间，已经晚上10点了。 　　“啊，对不起，没注意时间，已经这么晚了。”男人歉意的笑了笑。 　　“现在，你可以理解嘛？我不可能，也不会，作对不起她的事。” 　　“啊，知道了。输给这样子的人，心服口服咯。”女人无奈地摇了摇头。“不过我到了她的年纪，会更棒的。” 　　“嗯。那就可以找到更好的男人。不是吗？ 　　很晚了，家里的汤要冷了，我送你回去。”男人站起身，想送女人。 　　“不了，我自己回去可以了。”女人摆了摆手。“回去吧，别让她等急了。” 　　男人会心的笑了笑，转身要走。 　　“她漂亮嘛？” 　　“嗯，很美。” 　　男人的身影消失在夜色中，留下女人，对着蜡烛。发呆。 　　男人回到家，推开门，径直走到卧室，打开了台灯。 　　沿着床边，坐了下来。 　　“老婆，已经第四个了。干吗让我变成这么好，好多人喜欢我呀。搞不好，我会变心呀。干吗把我变成这么好，自己却先走了？我，我一个人，好孤单呀。” 　　男人哽咽的说着，终于泣不成声。 　　眼泪，一滴滴的从男人的脸颊流下，打在手心里的相框上。昏暗的灯光中，旧照片里，弥漫着的，是已逝女子，淡淡的温柔…… 　　虽说平凡如路旁一棵草，但生命和个性总是属于自己

--"Hey, are you busy?" or "Are you doing something?" ~ two phrases guys open with to stop from stammering on the phone.
--Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
--Before they call, guys try to plan out a little about what they're gonna say so there aren't awkward pauses, but once he's on the phone he forgets it all and makes it up as he goes.
--Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.
--Guys will do anything just to get you to notice him.
--Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they're goin for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-her-realize-how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method.
--A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.
--Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they're still loved.
--Don't talk about your guy friends to your boyfriend.
--Guys get jealous easily.
--Guys are more emotional than they'd like people to think.
--Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he'll assume he did something wrong and he'll obsess about it trying to figure it out.
--Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
--Guys hate asking parents for money to buy girls presents. So they come up with ideas like saving their lunch money for a week. But it never works because guys are always hungry so they end up asking the parents for money anyway.
--Girls are guys' weaknesses.
--Guys are very open about themselves.
--It's good to test a guy first before you trust him. But don't let him wait too long.
--Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.
--If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.
--A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
--Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.
--Guys will brag about anything.
--Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. We rarely use beautiful.If a guy uses that, he likes you a whole hell of a lot.
--No matter how much guys talk about asses and boobs, personality is key.
--Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
--Guys worry about the thin line between being compassionate and being whipped.
--Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn't notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.
--Guys seek for advice from girls not other guys. Because most guys think alike, so if one guy's confused, then we're all confused.
--Any guy could write out a rulebook or advice book for flirting, but no guy can write out a book about relationships.
--Try to be as straightforward as possible.
--If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl.
--If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he's probably faking it and is spazzing inside.
--When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that.
--When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."
--Guys don't really have final decisions.
--If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn't happen that often, so when it does, you know something's up.
--If your best guy friend seems to avoid you or is never around when you're with your boyfriend, he's probably jealous and likes you.
--When a guy tells you that you are beautiful, don't say you aren't. It makes them want to stop telling you because they don't want you to disagree with them.
--When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he's definitely thinking something.
--Guys like femininity not feebleness.
--Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.
--A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.
--Don't be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.
--Everything in moderation. Put on makeup, wear perfume. Just not too much.
--Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.
--Guys hate rejection, but they hate being led on even more.
--If you are going to reject a guy, just do it. Don't say they are like a brother or just good friends, it just hurts even more. Tell them that you aren't interested in a relationship and they will respect you.
--Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.
--A guy would give his left nut to be able to read a girl's mind for a day.
--No guy can handle all his problems on his own. He's just too stubborn to admit it.
--Not all guys are assholes. Just because ONE is a jackass doesnt mean he represents ALL of us.
--We don't like girls who are too skinny.
--We love it when girls talk about their boobs.
--Always make sure you know what kind of stuff your getting into before making out with a guy ...like wheather it's a one time deal or not ....
--Believe it or not shy guys are the most easiest to talk to..it may not seem right but trust me they will start opening up like books after you just ask them questions about their lives and unoticable tell them about yours...
--When a guy hits your butt it means that he wants you sexually
--Even if they refuse it all guys are ticklish on the ribs..
--Guys love neck rubs and if he lets you keep doing it ..it means that he really likes you or his neck really hurts...
--Guys will test the waters to see how far they can get with you. Even if he doesn't intend to it will happen. Know how far it is you want to let him go and he will respect that...after you let him know a couple times.
--When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible.